Finding the Road to Forgiveness

Hi beautiful!  I openly admit it,  I am still in the process of understanding myself.  How I come to forgive someone is a big one for me.  I am not perfect, obviously, and I can admit that I sometimes hold people to unrealistic standards, especially if I love and care for them very much.  If they hurt me, it's difficult to find the road to forgiveness.  I eventually get there but it does take time.  Here are a few things I actively put into practice when I find myself struggling to forgive and move on.

1) Maintain Perspective

This is an easy one if you remain open minded.  Life happens.  People mess up.  You've messed up.  This "thing" that you are mulling over in your head is not life threatening, is it?  The answer is most definitely, no. Once you look at it through that lens, it shrinks and you soon realize it is something you can handle.

2) What is the Lesson?

I am a firm believer that every experience, every hardship, every thing really, is an opportunity to learn and grow.  Everything is shaping you into the person you are becoming and that is a good thing, when you maintain perspective (please see tip 1!).

3) Talk to a Trusted Friend

 Over the years Ive curated a group of trusted friends who have my very best interest at heart.  I will admit I have a small circle of friends, but that circle is EVERYTHING to me.  When I struggle to find a resolution that Ive gone over in my head, to the point of mental exhaustion and still can't figure it out, I know it's time to "consult an expert".


4) Let it Go

Too many times we hold on to these bad feelings as if it will change the situation when really what it is doing is rotting us from within.  Life is precious and we have too much to be grateful for to allow ANYTHING to have that much power over us.

Forgive the person. Forgive yourself.

I hope this helps.  I don't want to minimize feelings but the reality is forgiveness is more about you than the person who should be seeking forgiveness.  I remind myself of this every time I hit a wall.

What are some of your tips?  Please share below.

Thanks for reading.  XOXO💋

By LifeStyledbyErica